It's really not that difficult a concept. Some things shouldn't be joked about. It isn't because I'm One Of Those Feminists with no sense of humor, it's because joking about things normalizes them. And honestly, that's dangerous.
So let's try to dumb it down a little.
Don't make fun of people who can be hurt by it.
Now I'm not talking about 45 getting his feelings hurt about a television comedian making rude comments about his mouth's relationship with Putin's hairy manhood. He'll make poop-tweets about how he's being treated unfairly, and try to violate the First Amendment by censoring said comedian, but at the end of the day, he's still shitting on a golden throne that shoots warm water up his oddly pale arse so he doesn't have to worry about cleaning himself. On his private jet. Which he's taking to his golf resort. On the taxpayers' dime.
Make fun of the politicians. Make fun of the 1%. Make fun of the pe…
The status quo is unacceptable. We have a room full of rich fucking white men deciding the fates of everyone who ISN'T a rich fucking white man. A bunch of entitled pricks who everyone says think they know better what we need than we do.
But here's the thing: They KNOW that what they're doing is harmful. Let's stop pretending their intentions are altruistic. Let's stop pretending this is about anything more than power and money. It isn't that they think they know better than we (and our doctors) do--It's that they legitimately don't give a shit about what we need. What they want is FAR more important than what we need. What they want is to have all of the money and all of the power, and for women and PoC and poor people and queers to literally serve them or die. (We queers are in the "or die" category, except for the hot women, who need to have the queerness raped out of them.)
I'd like to say a few things about rape culture. Mainly what it is, what it isn't, and why your knee-jerk reaction isn't necessary.
Rape culture exists. And we pretty much all contribute to it. Yes, even I do.
Rape Culture is an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which sexual violence against women is normalized and excused in the media and popular culture.
Rape Culture is NOT a bunch of dudes standing around drugging drinks and talking about how they can't wait until a chick gets raped. Those dudes exist, but that is NOT what rape culture is.
When I say "you contribute to rape culture," it does NOT mean that you're okay with rape. It doesn't mean that you like it, that you think it's not a huge problem, that you wouldn't do everything in your power to stop it if you get the opportunity.
It means that you contribute to a ubiquitous and pervasive society that frequently reduces women to sex objects.