Before I start, a disclaimer: For the purposes of this posting, "Men" shall refer generally to cisgendered men who are attracted to women. "Women" or "we," on the other hand, will refer not only femme-identified people, but all people who present or are perceived femme regardless of sex or gender identity. This is not meant to be exclusionary, but rather is because I need to be understood by idiots.
You are not "a nice guy."
I know you aren't
because of how hard you're trying
to convince everyone around you
that you are.
The louder you scream "not all men,"
that you ARE DEFINITELY
one of THOSE men.
The PROBLEM men.
If your response to a woman saying
"This is why we are afraid"
while posting an article
about A MAN
SHOOTING AN INFANT
because he was rejected by a mother
is not with disgust
and heartfelt sympathy,
but is instead with
The status quo is unacceptable. We have a room full of rich fucking white men deciding the fates of everyone who ISN'T a rich fucking white man. A bunch of entitled pricks who everyone says think they know better what we need than we do.
But here's the thing: They KNOW that what they're doing is harmful. Let's stop pretending their intentions are altruistic. Let's stop pretending this is about anything more than power and money. It isn't that they think they know better than we (and our doctors) do--It's that they legitimately don't give a shit about what we need. What they want is FAR more important than what we need. What they want is to have all of the money and all of the power, and for women and PoC and poor people and queers to literally serve them or die. (We queers are in the "or die" category, except for the hot women, who need to have the queerness raped out of them.)
I'd like to say a few things about rape culture. Mainly what it is, what it isn't, and why your knee-jerk reaction isn't necessary.
Rape culture exists. And we pretty much all contribute to it. Yes, even I do.
Rape Culture is an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which sexual violence against women is normalized and excused in the media and popular culture.
Rape Culture is NOT a bunch of dudes standing around drugging drinks and talking about how they can't wait until a chick gets raped. Those dudes exist, but that is NOT what rape culture is.
When I say "you contribute to rape culture," it does NOT mean that you're okay with rape. It doesn't mean that you like it, that you think it's not a huge problem, that you wouldn't do everything in your power to stop it if you get the opportunity.
It means that you contribute to a ubiquitous and pervasive society that frequently reduces women to sex objects.