We teach our girls how not to get raped. That's where our focus is. Universities hand out guides to college life telling female students not accept strange beverages from strangers, to travel in packs, to avoid binge drinking, to dress conservatively. We teach them that the weight of not getting raped is on them.
We don't put that sort of energy into teaching anybody not to rape people.
I can also promise you this, both of the men who assaulted me genuinely don't believe they did anything wrong. The fact that they wanted to have sex with me was just more important to them than any opinion I might have had in the matter.
Becoming SuperMommy: "It Wasn't My Fault"
|A scene from the Chicago SlutWalk|